JR Allen - Pure, True Love

Seven years ago I was completely & totally drained of living life. I had finally accepted that I was put on this earth to only experience pain because I sure had never felt TRUE HAPPINESS & LOVE. I honestly had taken a vow to never feel again & just live my life being numb.

I was on my way out one night & a friend of mine called me & asked me to stop by where he was first so we could visit for a minute. I agreed & headed toward where he was. I opened the door & there was my friend in the back of the room. There was this man shooting a game of pool & he hadn’t taken his eyes off me since I opened the door. My friend introduced us and I’ll never forget the way my insides felt. I had never experienced it before. We sat down & started to talk (Actually, I talked & he listened).

I blew off my plans & that night he sat with me & listened. I was so comfortable with him. I told him every bad & horrible thing about me & all the bad things I had done in my life & he just stared at me & listened. Hours had gone by & I had drank too much to be driving, so JR said he’d give me a ride home.

On the way to my house I continued to talk & when we pulled up to my house I was ready to say good-bye & go inside. Before I got out of the car he asked me if I would go out with him the next night. I said yes and we exchanged #"s & he told me what time he’d be there to pick me up the next night. I got out of the car & he drove off. My mind was spinning & I was so confused. I had just told this man everything about myself & he asked me out.

The next day we talked on the phone so many times. I made it clear that I was done with getting involved & that was final. He said o.k. I got ready & was sitting outside with my mother & another lady I consider a mother. When he got there, I introduced him & as we were getting ready to leave, Mary (my other mother), looked at me & said that’s the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with. I rolled my eyes & told her I was through with those fairytales. We got in the car & left & I told JR when ever he got ready to take me home that was fine.

He never took me home.  We were married 3 months later. He had no idea what he was getting himself into. He has been my ROCK & when I fall he picks me up. He knows my deepest darkest secrets & he has gotten me through my worst nightmares. I never knew what the real meaning of love & friendship was until I met this man. He is my SOULMATE.

It’s been 7 years & they have been rocky at times but he has never given up on me. He has given me back everything others have taken from me. We have a beautiful 4 year old son that we are raising together. I have a 13 year old son that I’m finally starting to have a relationship with, I also have a 9 year old daughter and a 12 year old step-daughter. Together we will repair those relationships.

He has turned all my fears around. JR accepts me for who I am & has gotten me through so much pain. Today I know it’s worth living & I have the strength to stand on my own 2 feet. GOD’S timing is amazing - just when i was ready to give up I received a gift. JR is more than my husband & the father of my child.  He is my best friend & my SOULMATE!! The love we share is so pure & deep. I stand by the saying that there is 1 person GOD has made for each of US, & if you are lucky enough to find that person, it is the most amazing thing. I asked him “why me,” & he told me that when he saw me walk through the door, I had a glow around me like an angel & it pulled at his heart.

The feeling is very mutual. I love him with everything in me & he loves me the same. He doesn’t look at me & see all my faults he says he sees THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE. I can honestly say I know the meaning of true love because with my husband that is what I have.

Yvette Allen 01-02-07